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I watched the premiere of HUGE and I’m hooked. And note that I am not one to watch TV. The premise of the storyline intrigued me and also the fact that @JessWeiner was so excited about it as I truly respect the work she does for young women. (great follow on twitter).

I had planned to watch the show with my oldest daughter and oldest stepdaughter and my babysitter and her friends but just like the “best laid plans of mice and men”, the viewing party did not come to fruition. So I watched it alone and was completely enthralled.

What struck me immediately was the gritty reality of the show. I have to admit, I winced a bit when Wil took off her clothes to reveal her swimsuit. At first, I thought wow what a gutsy character but then it hit me she is so hiding behind her weight and her humor.  What a great job the writers did in creating her character and other characters on the show.

In my humble opinion, ALL people struggle with insecurities and it begins in the tween years.  For this group of kids, many hide behind their weight. They also hide behind their tough exterior and their abrasive personalities.  But all kids and many adults hide behind something. We are all so terrified that we will be found out. That others will discover we’re not perfect and therefore not worthy of love.  So sad but so true.

True love is unconditional yet our society constantly bombards us with conditions that make us lovable; pretty + thin + smart + wealthy = love

As adults many of us know that is simply not true, but many tweens and teens don’t.

I know I’ve only seen one episode but I think this series can really make a difference and open up dialogue between kids and parents and kids to kids to discuss some serious matters.

What saddened me the most during the show was when Wil’s character would reference how her parents are embarrassed of her and other campers made comments how their parents’ approval is linked to their weight. The message was clear to these kids –  my parents don’t approve of me because they think I’m fat. Therefore, my parents don’t love me.  And lets face it if kids feel they aren’t worthy of their parents’ love then who will ever love them. I know this to be true as a stepmom. My stepdaughters have even said “if my own mom doesn’t love me, why would anyone else ever love me.”

I hope parents are watching HUGE.

What we say and how we say things to our kids is so important. I know personally some great people who have children that are overweight. They are at a loss to help them so they’ve started teasing which they think will prompt them to eat healthy. No. Stop. Kids need to feel loved unconditionally by their parents. When parents tease about weight, the child doesn’t hear “we want you to loose wait to be healthy” the kid hears “you are a total failure and I’m embarrassed of you.” I hope this show makes the scales fall of the eyes of many parents on how they talk to their kids about weight and other issues.

Parents; you may not think it is so but your kids listen to what you say and how you say it. You are a HUGE influence in their life.

I’ll be tuning in Monday, July 5th for the next episode. I hope you will too. If you missed the first show, you can watch it on ABCFamily http://abcfamily.go.com/

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HUGE! What do you think when you hear that word? Honestly, what you you think? In our culture it seems that the word huge has two different connotations depending on the context. If we are speaking of inanimate objects such as gifts, meals, stores then huge is positive and sought after. However, if we are referring to the size of a person then the word huge typically carries negative connotations. Why is that?

As a mom of two daughters and two stepdaughters, I am very committed to teaching my girls the 3Ms; modesty, manners, morality. I work hard to instill healthy eating habits and to love the skin they are in. Even though I monitor what they hear, read and see, marketers still seem to penetrate my mom shield and tell my girls they are nothing if they aren’t thin.

Personally, I struggled with body image growing up. I believed I wasn’t worthy of good things if I didn’t fit “the mold.”  And because, I didn’t fit that mold I spent a great deal of my adolescence and young adulthood not feeling worthy of the good things in life. I don’t want that for my four daughters. I don’t want that for anyone’s daughters.

While my husband and I tell our girls they are beautiful inside and out, society tells them they need to look a certain way to be valued.

Value comes from the inside not the outside. Our young daughters are worthy whether they are a size 0 or a size 18.

I’m also passionate about this topic because I have heard from so many stepmoms who struggle with helping their stepdaughters with weight issues. Weight is a touchy topic for anyone but add the additional layer of stepmotherhood and you’ve got a delicate issue coupled with a sometimes delicate relationship.

When I first heard about this new show HUGE, I had mixed reactions. Initially, I thought, please don’t let it be a show where they are going to make fun of kids who are overweight. Yet I was intrigued by the show’s premise and felt prompted to learn more about HUGE.

“Funny, heartbreaking and provocative, Huge follows the lives of seven teens and the staff at a weight-loss camp, as they look beneath the surface to discover their true selves and the truth about each other” as stated on their official website. Huge is based on the book, of the same name, by author Sasha Paley.

The show’s mission is to Love Huge, Think Huge, Act Huge. Whatever you do, do it to the fullest – LIVE HUGE!

Now that is something that I want to watch. I’m planning on hosting a viewing party with my two oldest girls and my babysitter and some of her friends. Curious to watch the first episode through the eyes of young girls.

The show stars Nikki Blonsky from Hairspray and Hayley Hasselhoff. HUGE premieres Monday, June 28 at 9pm EST on ABCFamily.

It’s my hope that you will also tune in. Perhaps, this show will be a turning point in popular media. My sincere desire is that this show will open up honest dialogue about weight and body image for both girls and boys. Please tune it. Watch it with your young teens. Just give it a try and please come back and post what you think.


Official website is http://abcfamily.go.com/shows/huge

Follow Huge on Twitter @ABDFHuge

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